re: How do y'all marry people and hate their parents?

There's no tension between me and my MIL. She and my wife don't get along all that well. I'm a bit indifferent, but loved my FIL.

I've only seen her for 2 days for a few hours in the past 2 years since he died. We stayed in a hotel, which wasn't the norm in the past 22 years

My wife might talk to her once a month on the phone. It doesn't really impact my life or marriage. Being a long distance away negates most issues we might have if we lived 5 miles down the road.

I only disliked my ex-mother-in-law because she slept with just about every guy in town, while she was still married to my ex-father-in-law. My ex-wife refused to tell her dad and that was a huge problem in my marriage because honesty is big with me. If I get remarried again, getting along with both my in-laws is a must!

My MIL wasn't a very nice person. She wasn't nice to her daughter (My wife) when she was growing up. I married her when I was 21 and she was 23. I took my wife home to visit her family (out of state). After a day or so, her mother's true colors came out and she said something a bit hurtful to her daughter. I said "hold on one minute, she may have been your daughter but now she is my wife and NOBODY is talking to my wife like that, understand me"?

She was infinitely pissed but held her tongue for the rest of her life. My wife is the kindest and most wonderful person I've ever met and her Mom was being mean because she could.

After that got cleaned up and understood, we had no problems.

The difference between in-laws and outlaws is one of ‘em is wanted. That’s all I got.

This is something I've always wondered. There was a thread a few days ago complaining about going to the in-laws too often.

I'm not going to date someone if I don't like their family because I really enjoy family events.

My n-laws are good folk. They’re just like a lot of other people that don’t solve problems on their own. Something goes wrong with their electrical service, they call a guy that works at the power company, not the 800 number. Gas company, phone company, same thing. They use people, not processes. They did the same with me for years till I told them I just don’t have time anymore.

I don't like my in-laws but I don't dislike them either. Our personalities don't mesh. They're very liberal but keep their opinions to them selves. They're people just like me who do good things and dumb things. I'm stuck with them so I treat them with respect, but still keep them at arm's length.

I like my in-laws alright.

They are fantastic as strictly in-laws, they have little interest in being grandparents. That’s my only complaint with them.

When I married, I never was concerned. I knew if her parents didn't like me I would move out of state, and felt the same if my parents didn't accept her.. We never lived closer than 60 miles to either.
Had a great relationship with both. It's been the same with our daughters in law.
I don't like family squabbles. I listen to folks moan and groan about their grown children and wonder why, I would sell out and move to Montana and never give a phone number or address, if kids were a constant irritation.

Things are a lot better now that my wife and her brothers and sisters are all grown and moved out. I don't think MiL ever really wanted to be a mom and raising kids always stressed her out and made her very mean in a lot of ways. The kids moving out has seemingly mellowed her out to a degree. FiL was waaaayyyyyy too passive.

We can have family gatherings now and they're typically fine but I wouldn't say that we're friends or anything. Thankfully SiL and her husband are actually really cool to hang out with so that's a nice family connection.

Her brother is a bit of a grown child with a temper problem so we don't really hang out with him all that much. He's too hair-trigger and the wife and I don't put up with his B/s.