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Wife (no pics) is usually fairly reasonable but has been aggravated with me lately.

Her cousin (no pics) had a graduation party this past weekend about 3.5 hours away but we were planning to go to the in law's house this coming weekend for Mother's Day, roughly 6 hours away.

I told her I will do either but not doing both, she has a car, money, and a friend (no pics) who can go but she got aggravated simply because I wouldn't go.

She ended up going to the graduation but somehow a Memorial Day trip to the in law's house got added. I told her again that I'd do either but that I'm not taking a 6 hour trip for a whole weekend, twice in three weeks.

Now she's aggravated again.

I'm not doing both trips either way but AITAH?

yes you are the a-hole

and why would you not want to spend the weekend with your wife and kids? Who cares about the driving, you get to spend it with them, should be enjoyable.

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Posted by teke184

Zachary, LA

Member since Jan 2007

96765 posts

Posted on 5/8/24 at 12:59 pm to lsu777

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and why would you not want to spend the weekend with your wife and kids? Who cares about the driving, you get to spend it with them, should be enjoyable.

Probably spoken by someone who hasn’t had to caravan kids for what should be six hours but ends up closer to 10 by the end of it.

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Posted by SidewalkTiger

Midwest, USA

Member since Dec 2019

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Posted on 5/8/24 at 1:08 pm to lsu777

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and why would you not want to spend the weekend with your wife and kids? Who cares about the driving, you get to spend it with them, should be enjoyable.

No kids.

It is enjoyable somewhat but I don't want to spend 2 of 3 weekends traveling 12 hours round trip and at her parents the entire weekend.

We usually go for a weekend every 5 weeks or so and I feel like that's reasonable.

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Posted by makersmark1

earth

Member since Oct 2011

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Posted on 5/8/24 at 2:29 pm to lsu777

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why would you not want to spend the weekend with your wife and kids? Who cares about the driving, you get to spend it with them, should be enjoyable.

Maybe I’m autistic, but I skip as much as possible. Time in the car is lost time.
I enjoy seeing family, but I miss lots of “special” days. There are just too many to go to all of them.

I also never expect/demand that anyone come to see me. When they do, I treat them very well.

I’m with you OP, spending all your weekends in the car for one more birthday, wedding, retirement, whatever is too much.

At some point, you are just going from event to event with no real joy associated with it.

Pick a weekend, not every weekend.

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Posted by AwgustaDawg

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Member since Jan 2023

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Posted on 5/8/24 at 2:32 pm to lsu777

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yes you are the a-hole

and why would you not want to spend the weekend with your wife and kids? Who cares about the driving, you get to spend it with them, should be enjoyable.

BAHAHAHAHAHAHAH....enjoying a weekend with the wife and kids. PLEASE. It seems like a thing. Most men make every attempt to make it a thing. The problem is the wife and kids ain't having none of it. She is going to either bitch the entire weekend or talk about that crazy bitch at work...or both....and the kids are going to whine about the shite they ain't got. I have been married over 30 years and raised 2 kids. I tried to show them a big time, we travelled all over the world, did all kinds of shite that looks great in the brochures. Every time it was the same....bitch bitch bitch whine whine whine. I still do it like an idiot because I am a glutton for punishment....but I harbor no doubts as to the outcome. I have been surprised a few times so that keeps me eternally hopeful but when shite goes south...and it does often and quick...I am not shocked.

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