re: Anyone else not on speaking terms with a parent?

getting very close with my father. He was minimally present during my childhood which I mainly came to terms with...until I became a father. That has dredged up some complicated feelings to say the least so I find my tolerance for his normal bullshite is lower.

Recently he started becoming hell bent on phone calls when he never cared literally my entire life. Now he will call in the middle of a day with my 2 year old son who obviously does not like when I take attention off him to talk on the phone...I work my arse off all week so I'm not going to do that to chit chat with a dude who wasn't interested in talking to me for years so I generally ignore the call and text back...I make efforts to text him pictures of his grandson which usually go ignored or a one word response. I will try to call him back and get sent to voicemail.... then I'll get another call again when I'm spending time with my family and get a snarky voicemail... "guess you don't have time for me" "got tired of waiting for a call back" etc.

shite has me boiling...I think in part because again..complicated feelings and part because I know it's not out of any desire to actually communicate... its just his current thing he's doing when it's a good time for him and he's been an executive long enough he's used to just bullying people.

Anyway...that felt good to rant out...but I'm pretty close to saying talk when I have time, take your retired arse off the golf course and come visit or get fricked