Do the majority of women only look at what they can get out of a relationship now days?

Like with most women, their expectations are usually higher than reality.

Majority of women are not on dating sites so consider your testing source. If you want to meet people looking for something different maybe consider looking different places, trying different things and being open to different possibilities.

Social media is harming the way we are wired as a species.

Women are somewhat more socially bounded so the trends and mindsets they experience online have a greater impact than it would for an average male.

I won’t speak to online dating beyond the other factor which has been scientifically noted which is that women only appear to be interested in the top quartile of men and view a pair match of a statistical equal from a looks perspective as unattractive.

That sounds innocent enough but spread across a population is enough to cause absolute chaos if our assumption is that every potential male is supposed to find a mate. I would point out that’s not how it works in other species, but that’s a separate conversation.

It's not just now. Women have been doing it since the beginning of time.

You act as if this is a one way street. Don’t guys do the same thing?

Once they get to a certain age it seems like it. Especially if they have kids. They don't really look at who you are as much as what you're willing to provide.

Reading about a lot of folks dating experiences makes me appreciate my wife a lot more. When we met I was pretty much going paycheck to paycheck putting myself through school. She already had an established career. She didn't support me money wise (I didn't want or expect her to) but was really supportive of my goals and put up with a lot of bullsh*t over the first few years of dating while I was getting a career established. IDK what she saw in my dumbarse back then but glad she saw something.

Do the majority of men only look at their company/job as what they can do for them now days?

It’s a generational problem.

For many women a relationship is like a new handbag. It's simply another accessory to add to her "look". Once you can't make her look good anymore then you lose appeal to her so she'll move on to another guy who'll bolster her look. Usually her "look" is geared towards her friend group. If you pay close enough attention you'll notice female groups like sorority sisters will marry very similar guys, marry at similar times, have kids at similar times, etc.


Having the delusion of lots of options makes picking up and tossing relationships a lot easier.

I said it in thee last thread and I’ll say it again. Look for a spicy Latina. They have old school ideals and take pleasure in spoiling their man and pulling their weight. Sure, they may be emotionally unstable at times but they are female so you can’t really blame them.

My relationship with with my chica bonita is the healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in and we both say that.

Plus, she sings to me in Spanish. Sexy sexy sexy.

I went on a weekend fishing trip last weekend with friends. While I was gone, she cleaned my entire apartment including scrubbing my bathroom spotless. She did this so I could come home to a clean apartment and spend time with her Sunday night and she also cooked for us that night.

If you find a white woman that would do that these days, you’re having better luck than I did while dating white women the last 5 years.