re: How to raise sons to be confident and successful today in a big city?

Instill in him that if he embraces his masculinity, women will be lining up for an opportunity. There will be a smaller market of those men, and good women will want that.

You are a decent woman...do you go after the soyboy who brings emotional baggage or the protector who has none?

Make sure you instill in him that he makes no apologies for his upbringing, but also has a certain level of respect for other people's beliefs. Ensure that he stands true to his values.

I am a firm believer of putting him in a good school as a minor. That will be a big help for you.

Also, load him up with sports activities where he has to work as a team.