re: Ideas for my son to start inviting his friends to our house

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I had a really a-hole response loaded, but you stopped me. Thanks.

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Once you learn to really appreciate what food you make for yourself can taste like and the fun there can be in making it
I mean unlike many of you I didn't have a family so I never got to do it extensively for larger groups but all those years when it was me alone I cooked dinner every Sunday

I had food that I could make if I got home at night that wasn't frozen dinners I mean it wasn't necessarily fresh cut . raw

its a very basic a good man thing to know how to make dinner,,
We've gotten so inside on a computers and away from nature and I think it eats at us

all these places for kids to inside and play games and all that that that's well and good and all

but sounds like they have those options and you wanna stand out

maybe a pizza oven or making meals isn't something you even enjoy doing but even if you forced yourself to try the connection that you would make with your son and just the good knowing how to fix food knowing how to clean up a kitchen knowing how to serve others knowing the fun it can be doing it with family you don't have to have him with you every weekend if you do this and you do it right and I believe you're sincere when you ask this could be something or something in the same vein that could really be your thing with your son it would mean a lot to him and more to you

you mentioned music.. that's another life-enriching hobby

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its a very basic a good man thing to know how to make dinner

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this

Saves money

Helps independence

And its an activity you can do with a girl (at home, which means you're halfway there already)

I perfected the lightly grilled tuna steak with spinach and red onions

and a brand new fresh toothbrush for the spinach..get it out of the her teeth

that playful banter made the panties drop


And convince them the only toothbrush you had in your house was your own

Those parents got you over the barrel. Sadly most kids don't end up having those life long friends. And besides, in 3 years their choice of things to do will drastically change. I always was glad to have the kids hang out at my house bc I could see what was going on.

Some kids love being home, others love hanging out elsewhere. Your daughter may be the reason your son prefers hanging out elsewhere.

Growing up, I hated having friends over at my house....it just didn't have the "cool" vibe some of my neighbors' houses had. Just letting kids be, staying out of their business, can be enough to provide that vibe.

My kids? They loved being home and ours was the house everyone hung out at. Believe me, it got old. Noisy, more messes to clean up, food/drinks destroyed, kids up late as frick when doing sleepovers, and you're also much more prone to getting pulled into some stupid neighborhood drama.

I don't know....gotta just let him be, man. I'd hate to see you sink $10K into something and the kids are right back to doing their regular thing after a month or two.

Batting cage, babes, and blow

Our house was the one that always had lots of food and my wife would always make them snacks.

It seems like we fed half of the neighborhood when the kids were younger.

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I provided food and stfu.

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ur chatty as frick in the thray

Man I can’t believe you received any down votes. I’m 35 and a workaholic. My father worked every hour of OT offered to give me a better life than he ever had a shot at. He also made time to coach and take me fishing, hunting and teach me to make time to help people and be a honest man. I have not one memory of wishing he would have been there for a certain event. Even when I was a senior in high school and avoided his house and disregarded to let him know what time my last baseball playoff game was, over 4 hours away. He was there.
He instilled in me to work hard and here I am in a hotel working 90 hour weeks. I’m home 7 months out of the year and work at a shop Monday- Friday. So my free time is limited and it gets booked up quickly with the wife and I being active in many aspects. My father still makes it a point to reach out when times go too far in between seeing each other. We live 8 minutes apart.
We planted fruit trees earlier this year at our new home that are in full bloom now. That’s something I’m proud of, that I’ll ways think of him when they bloom. Last week I was pushing mowing a swamp of a yard before I left town the next day when he pulled up with another fruit tree to replace one that didn’t take. I told him I did not have time to plant it as I had my hands full before the sun went down. ( now I love my Pops dearly and extremely cherish our time together. My point is that my life is hectic and I will clean this up soon.) Thankfully he proceeded to plant it anyways. Afterwards, he helped me finish cutting the lawn and we even cut his the next morning.
Reading your post was touching to me for some reason. Here I am living the life that I thought he instilled in me, a good and honest life. When I am home with free time, I make sure to do something besides sitting on the couch. I lost my best friend at 17 and said I would live everyday to the fullest. So even when you think you are living on the right track, make time to do the events that will matter to you and to those involved when you no longer have the opportunity to do them. Time is of the essence and do not take time for granted . Hug your Pops guys and girls and your Moms too. Sorry for the long arse emotional rant. I just thought what you said was spot on.


OP, have a bonfire and do smores.
Teach them to shoot a bow. Learn to do leather work together, teach them to throw darts or horseshoes