re: Any of you married men with families ever quit your job without having another lined up?

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Any of you married men with families ever quit your job without having another lined up?

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I did.

My advice to you is, don't.

At the time, I had been traveling for over 6 years, weekly.

I made an emotional decision, and I made a selfish decision. And that time, I didn't view it as such, I thought I was being logical, but I wasn't. I was actually being selfish, without meaning to be, but that's how it was interpreted by my then wife -- along with being disrespectful to her, and her feeling that I took her for granted. She was right all along, but my pride got in the way, and I deflected and avoided taking ownership for way too long. It caused resentment, anger, and disconnect. Our marriage never recovered from it.

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Should I just quit and start spending all my time looking for another job, or should I stick it out and try to find another job while working the 50 hours a week?

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Have a conversation with your wife, but stick it out, until you can find another job --- or you gain your wife's permission to leave now. This is more about being respectful to your equal partner than anything else and allowing her to have a say, because this is the part about two becoming one.

I failed at this, and this was one of the reasons why my marriage started to deteriorate.

I had another job lined up but I quit a job with my start date a month away and my wife had our second baby two weeks after I quit

Maybe I missed it in the thread, but why do you think they won't keep you around much longer? Are you making it look obvious you're miserable there? Has anything been told to you by someone there you don't have much longer?

I’m about to do this. But I’m extremely luckily that I was able to be honest with my boss and say I want our (Wall Street).

I’m fortunate that I could be without a job for a while if need be. Just depends on your circumstances and your career background / experience.

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Probably from home too.

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Looks like another jealous plant worker

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Agree. I posted about a situation where I quit without anything else lined up, but I was not a manager when I did that. I was a craftsman doing something pretty specific all day, where it was obvious how well I was doing.

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I actually think for the most part you are still ok from a pure hiring standpoint at the entry level or doer level (programmer, accountant, etc).

You may even still have a shot when you are looking at junior management roles.

But when you hit Director or above, if you don’t think DEI is driving those hiring and promotion decisions despite the mountains of evidence where the companies are flat out telling us they’re doing this, I honestly don’t know what to say.

Are you the breadwinner or can your wife carry you for a bit?

Sounds like that’s a discussion for the two of you.

I’ve done it twice.

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have my CPA license

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Bro it’s tax season. Sign up with TurboTax live. It’s only about $20-25/hour, but it’s remote and basically paid experience. You will put food on the table and grow at the same time.

Start getting clients now, get Drake or Proconnect and crank out some returns.

You will have either started a nice side hustle going into your next job, or your own business that will allow you to never have another job. Tax work pays well and there are less younger CPAs starting their own forms than ever before.

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and I have a notary commission,

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Hang that shingle now. You have multiple ways to make money day 1. Just do it. Get a web page with basic SEO, Advertise on FB, hang fliers, network like crazy. Work your own network even for easy clients.

I’ve been where you are, I’m happier now.