re: Have women bitten off more than they can chew w/(family courts/marriage/divorce)

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Yikes!if after years together your love for your spouse isn't deeper than looks that is scary. What if one person becomes a burn victim or has some other horrible physically disfiguring accident? You just don't love them anymore because the physical attraction to what they used to look like is gone?
Wow

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I responded to a post about getting fat but go off with your 0.001% chance counterexample queen

My point still applies even in that extreme example, though, and it's clear you didn't fully follow it. Are you going to be equally physically desirous of a spouse who became horribly disfigured? Almost certainly not. Is that going to affect your marriage? Almost certainly so, no matter how much we'd like to think otherwise. Does it mean you're going to get divorced? No (or it shouldn't, and you're a scumbag if you do). Spouses of people who go through those traumatic events generally report both a loss of love associated with a loss of physical desire and intense guilt and shame for that. For an emotion they can't even control! That's what's actually horrible.

I think if you made a lifelong vow "in sickness and in health" then you're a scumbag for leaving them if they got seriously injured in a horrific accident. You will notice I never said that you should leave them. But the idea that it won't affect your love for them is naive and ludicrous, and it actively makes it harder to discuss what love even means because people wrap a billion different ideas into it. Far better to accept human emotion for what it is and recognize that sometimes life sucks and you have to deal with the consequences for the betterment of those around you.

It's also worth noting that the sexes are attracted to each other for different reasons that you may not fully appreciate. Both sexes place a lot of importance on looks for desire, but women generally can more easily look past that if the man is confident and driven. For men desire is overwhelmingly physical. We're just wired different.

There was a time when a guy who wanted sex had to get married or visit prostitutes. Now that people have quick hookups with no commitment, marriage is a less attractive option for some people.

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Hell, Gwen Stefani is having a baby in her 50’s.

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not her eggs

The single females are the most left-wing group in America. Just look at electoral map of US with only males voting: an electoral bloodbath with landslide Republican wins every cycle.

They go on Twitter chimping out about the “current thing”; these things happen because they haven't had orgasms in many months/years. Most problems in America could end if the State provided $2,000 min per session to bodybuilders like myself to satisfy hysterical women. This would end all female political participation.

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understand all the reasons. But it still sad to me that our government and court systems seem to almost be encouraging young people from having families. And scaring men away from marriage due to the "rigged" nature of how divorce turns out.

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If your spouse was desirable at some point but gained a bunch of weight

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Which happens frequently because one (or both) spouse just let's themself go. They accept an unhealthy lifestyle and pack on ~100 lbs. That's a choice. Age has nothing to do with that. I've seen this frequently, and it doesn't end well.

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What I've gathered from this thread is that the posters are almost exclusively mid 40's divorcees with the following charecteristics:


or maybe the posters are exceptionally observant.

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Exactly. I think most people in this thread are just observing the world they see around them, and pointing out how our current marriage/family court setup is not doing society or the family any favors.

I am not a divorcee or bitter about anything in my personal life, marriage is definitely not always easy, especially if you aren't being intentional about trying to preserve it.

But alot of people aren't capable or do not have the will to put in the effort to keep a marriage going. Society used to provide guard rails around a marriage/family to keep in tact, now they are putting exit ramps of all over the place.

Ultimately we get depressed, broken down, financially stripped husbands. And fatherless children. The statistics are out there on kids who grow up in divorced or fatherless households, and they are not good.

The whole system is a rotten tree, we should not be shocked when the fruit is rotten as well.

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Society used to provide guard rails around a marriage/family to keep in tact

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thats a way to call it