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Getting wife on board with fitness
Posted on 5/17/24 at 1:00 pm
Posted on 5/17/24 at 1:00 pm
My wife (no pics) has always been in good shape and used to love working out. Think if given the opportunity she would start again. She is the heaviest she’s ever been and talks weekly about “I’m serious this time. I’m going to start eating better” but never does. She has gotten 2 gym memberships in the last year or so and has gone 1-2/month so she cancelled them.
Her mental is not very strong and complains a ton. I workout 4-5 days a week mostly for my mental strength and stability. Wish she would workout more to strengthen her mind like myself.
Have any of you guys been successfully in getting your wife back into fitness/running/etc? How’d you do it?
Her mental is not very strong and complains a ton. I workout 4-5 days a week mostly for my mental strength and stability. Wish she would workout more to strengthen her mind like myself.
Have any of you guys been successfully in getting your wife back into fitness/running/etc? How’d you do it?
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Posted on 5/17/24 at 1:13 pm to BayouBengal23
My wife recently got back into exercising after a pretty long hiatus. She started going back to a gym (Club 4) and really didn't love the environment and stopped going, but recently came across a workout routine she can do at-home and has been really enjoying it. I think me going consistently, coupled with her finding something she likes and can do when convenient for her, has helped a ton. Also, finding macro-friendly meals that we can both enjoy has probably been big in keeping her consistent
Posted on 5/17/24 at 1:20 pm to BayouBengal23
My fiancee was into fitness already but felt like she could do much much more so she decided one day, "frick it, i'm competing in NPC." She hired a coach and a dietician. shite isn't cheap, so she HAD to stick to it. She competed, and even though she didn't place, she still looked phenomenal. Now she's hooked. Your wife doesn't have to make such a drastic change, but maybe she needs something to motivate her. Maybe a 5k, a powerlifting event, amateur fitness competition, etc. You can workout and diet with her, that's what I did. Kept me in great shape too.
This post was edited on 5/17/24 at 1:29 pm
Posted on 5/17/24 at 1:49 pm to BayouBengal23
If you are in BR, Woman’s Fitness Center is absolutely the best. I’ve been a member there for 10 years. Classes are phenomenal, there is childcare for young kids if she needs that, personal trainers (extra cost), and all the other usual equipment you find at a gym and no one will judge her for being a little out of shape when she starts. It is s very welcoming atmosphere.
Posted on 5/17/24 at 2:33 pm to BayouBengal23
She should take up jiu jitsu!!
Posted on 5/17/24 at 3:57 pm to BayouBengal23
It's a tough one. I think most people like the idea of working out and being disciplined, but it's tough putting it into action. Honestly, the only way you're going to maintain actually doing it, is if you enjoy it.
I work out five times a week because it's good for my mental space, and I really enjoy it. It's not a struggle to wake up at 5:00 to do it.
People may be able to push themselves into working out, but if they don't appreciate the process - it's not sustainable.
Sounds like she should focus a lot more on diet, and not setting herself up for failure in the gym. Maybe go on walks together at night.
I work out five times a week because it's good for my mental space, and I really enjoy it. It's not a struggle to wake up at 5:00 to do it.
People may be able to push themselves into working out, but if they don't appreciate the process - it's not sustainable.
Sounds like she should focus a lot more on diet, and not setting herself up for failure in the gym. Maybe go on walks together at night.
This post was edited on 5/17/24 at 4:00 pm
Posted on 5/17/24 at 8:47 pm to BayouBengal23
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Getting wife on board with fitness
Regular gyms are easy to get bored with. I don't want to sound like a CrossFit pimp, but I'm hooked on it. I started seven months ago, and love it so much that I paid in full for another year. For me, it's an extremely rewarding experience. Some days, I leave there feeling like I killed the WOD. Some days, it humbles the ever loving shite out of me.
Bottom line, I get a killer workout and I love the challenge and variety of it. I belong to a great CrossFit gym and the members and culture is fantastic. Helpful people and coaches.
Posted on 5/18/24 at 6:52 am to lsugerberbaby
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It's a tough one. I think most people like the idea of working out and being disciplined, but it's tough putting it into action. Honestly, the only way you're going to maintain actually doing it, is if you enjoy it.
I work out five times a week because it's good for my mental space, and I really enjoy it. It's not a struggle to wake up at 5:00 to do it.
People may be able to push themselves into working out, but if they don't appreciate the process - it's not sustainable.
Sounds like she should focus a lot more on diet, and not setting herself up for failure in the gym. Maybe go on walks together at night.
Man you pretty much nailed it. I tell people that you can workout and be disciplined in the gym all you want but if your diet isn’t in check it’s not going to matter. It’s 85% diet and nutrition the rest is just icing on the cake to help mold the body for change.
Posted on 5/18/24 at 7:52 am to lsugerberbaby
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Think if given the opportunity she would start again.
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She has gotten 2 gym memberships in the last year or so and has gone 1-2/month so she cancelled them.
This wasn't an opportunity either time?
Take a look at her mom, this is where this is going. Does mom stay active? If not, there is probably no coming back. But you should definitely nag her about it, you can change her.
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I think most people like the idea of working out and being disciplined, but it's tough putting it into action. Honestly, the only way you're going to maintain actually doing it, is if you enjoy it.
Champions love the work, pretenders love the idea.
Posted on 5/18/24 at 9:22 am to ronricks
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I tell people that you can workout and be disciplined in the gym all you want but if your diet isn’t in check it’s not going to matter.
I started counting macros six weeks ago. You're right. If you aren't monitoring the fuel that goes into your body, you'll never achieve what you want to achieve.
Case in point....been working out hard for the past 5 1/2 months and was relatively happy with the results, but I still wanted a little more. A couple of the boys at the CrossFit gym I belong to count macros and I started asking them questions about it.
I decided to start counting macros....fast forward to six weeks later....body fat dropped from 16.8% to 13.3% and I dropped 11 pounds overall. Out of the 11 lbs I dropped, muscle mass went from 97.7 to 96.8. That was a tiny drop, but nothing I'm concerned with.
My cardio has taken a tick upwards and everything else has been easier (box jumps, pull ups, or anything involving moving your bodyweight around). I'm happy with where I'm at now at 192 lbs. I'll continue the maintenance macro split I'm on now for another couple of months and see where I'm at.
Never would've believed I'd see the drastic changes in just six weeks, but it just shows how important eating the right stuff means to your achieving your goals. Closely monitoring my intake of protein, carbs, fats has been huge. I'm usually consuming 2200 to 2400 calories per day, working out 4-6 days per week.
Posted on 5/18/24 at 9:23 am to lsucoonass
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She should take up jiu jitsu!!
While it’s not for everyone, I’ve seen some pretty amazing physical and mental transformations in ladies that train. 6 months and they’re a different person.
Posted on 5/18/24 at 9:54 am to BayouBengal23
She’ll eventually come around. It’s not often you see a couple where one person is really fit and the other isn’t. I started taking gym more seriously about 5 years ago and it kind of forced my wife to diet and get lean. Although to be honest I found her more attractive with the extra lbs. I like thicc women what can I say.
But I can tell she feels better about herself and she looks great in clothes when we go out on dates, ect. I miss dat arse though. :(
To your point, I don’t think you can really force her hand on working out. Kind of like an addict who won’t quit, until the person is ready to make a change you wont be able to do it for them. At least not for any length of time. Best you can do is inspire her with your positive experiences and look so good that she’ll want to keep up.
But I can tell she feels better about herself and she looks great in clothes when we go out on dates, ect. I miss dat arse though. :(
To your point, I don’t think you can really force her hand on working out. Kind of like an addict who won’t quit, until the person is ready to make a change you wont be able to do it for them. At least not for any length of time. Best you can do is inspire her with your positive experiences and look so good that she’ll want to keep up.
Posted on 5/18/24 at 12:17 pm to IBeenYeetin
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....but recently came across a workout routine she can do at-home and has been really enjoying it.
If possible, could you please share this at-home exercise routine.
Thank you.
Posted on 5/18/24 at 12:39 pm to BayouBengal23
Tell her "we" are going to the gym. Sometimes people need more than a nudge.
Maybe she's looking for you be a leader here and help her out of a rut. You can be supportive but firm. Take charge of the diet as well.
Maybe she's looking for you be a leader here and help her out of a rut. You can be supportive but firm. Take charge of the diet as well.
Posted on 5/18/24 at 5:15 pm to BayouBengal23
Tread carefully my friend.
Posted on 5/18/24 at 6:59 pm to BayouBengal23
I’ll tell you what not to do. When she makes some attempts to workout, don’t criticize her choice of workouts at first because you know she should be doing something else.
Posted on 5/19/24 at 12:01 pm to BayouBengal23
In all aspects of life:
Men need the physical to get the emotional.
Women need the emotional to get the physical.
Remember this and you will go far in life.
Men need the physical to get the emotional.
Women need the emotional to get the physical.
Remember this and you will go far in life.
Posted on 5/19/24 at 12:38 pm to Harahan Boy
It's a subscription/app called Form. I believe it's a combination of strength training and pilates. Wouldn't do it for me personally, but it has her back active again and she actually looks forward to doing the workouts, so no gripes from me. Think the biggest thing is to let her find something she enjoys and encourage them to stick with it
Posted on 5/19/24 at 12:57 pm to BayouBengal23
It's pretty easy....exercise is done against one's will because the alternative is worse.
Posted on 5/19/24 at 1:24 pm to idontyield
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Take a look at her mom, this is where this is going. Does mom stay active? If not, there is probably no coming back. But you should definitely nag her about it, you can change her.
No amount of shaming her is going to work. You out here trying to get the OP a divorce.
OP, how old is your wife? If she’s of an age that she’s getting into perimenopause, could be she may not have the energy for it and it could be effecting her mood/energy levels. Might be worth checking with her OB/GYN to make sure she’s in a good spot hormonally.
For myself, I had to teach myself that food is fuel and it’s a constant reminder than when I do workout I feel a lot better after the fact. If I haven’t worked out in awhile, I tend to forget that.
I also can’t just walk on a treadmill. I took up photography and birding and it has me walking a lot for distance and staying fit that way combined with counting macros.
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